What should I do if my co-parent refuses to share appointment details?
You are worried you do not have child health information.
Last reviewed May 07, 2026
Short answer
Write what appointment details you asked for, when you asked, what response you got, and any provider or record source.
Name the detail
Ask for the appointment date, provider, reason, after-visit note, or follow-up item.
Specific requests are easier to track.
Save the request and response
Keep your message and any reply or no-response note.
Use the date and topic in the record.
Keep the message calm
Focus on the child's care and the information needed.
Do not use the message to argue about the past.
What to do first
Make one medical update record with the requested detail, request date, response, and source.
What to save
- Appointment request
- Reply or no-response note
- Provider details if known
- Portal message
- Follow-up note
What to avoid
- Guessing medical details
- Sharing private health information carelessly
- Sending long blame messages
- Mixing medical issues with unrelated conflict
Start with one small step
Save medical requests, replies, records, and follow-up notes in one place.
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