Quick answer

What should I do if exchanges make my child anxious?

You want to help your child without making the conflict worse.

Last reviewed May 07, 2026

Short answer

Write down what you see, what helps, and what makes exchanges harder. Keep notes child-focused and avoid blaming language.

Write what you see or hear before, during, or after exchanges.

Use plain words like crying, quiet, stomachache, or trouble sleeping.

Write what helps the child settle.

Examples: earlier notice, a familiar item, shorter goodbye, or a steady location.

Save calm adult messages about exchange details.

Keep child comments separate from adult conflict.

If you are worried about the child's wellbeing, consider local support resources.

Keep your notes factual so you can explain the concern clearly.

Write one exchange note with date, child behavior, what helped, and any related message.

Track what happened, what helped, and what records connect to the exchange.

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