How do I make a short list of mediation goals?
You want to be ready but not overwhelmed.
Last reviewed May 07, 2026
Short answer
Pick three to five goals. Use plain words, connect each goal to the child or practical need, and bring the records that explain it.
Choose fewer goals
A short list is easier to use under stress.
Pick the issues that matter most for the meeting.
Use practical wording
Write what you want to solve, not everything you are upset about.
Example: Exchange time needs to be clear and consistent.
Bring support records
For each goal, list the record that explains the issue.
That may be a schedule, message, receipt, or timeline note.
Know your questions
Write what you need to understand before agreeing to anything.
Keep legal questions for legal help.
What to do first
Write three goals, one sentence each, and list one record that supports each goal.
What to save
- Goal list
- Questions
- Current orders
- Parenting schedule
- Expense notes
- Messages tied to each goal
What to avoid
- Bringing a long angry list
- Mixing goals with insults
- Forgetting the documents behind a goal
- Agreeing when you do not understand the terms
Start with one small step
Organize your goals, questions, records, and follow-up notes before mediation.
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