Practice
How to Use the Judge Simulator to Practice Clear Answers
Most hearing-day mistakes aren’t about “not caring.” They’re about stress. Practice turns stress into structure — so you can answer questions calmly and stay focused on the child.
Family court rewards clarity. Judges are balancing heavy dockets, limited time, and a need to make enforceable orders. The Judge Simulator is designed to help you rehearse the skill that matters most: short, credible answers.
The goal is not to “win” a debate. The goal is to be easy to follow: facts, dates, child impact, and a specific request.
The answer format that works
When you don’t know what to say, use this pattern:
Fact → Proof → Child impact → Request
“On [date], [fact]. (Fact) This is shown by [exhibit/record]. (Proof) This matters because it affects [routine/stability/safety]. (Child impact) I’m asking the court to order [specific, enforceable request]. (Request)”
If you can keep answers in this structure, you’ll avoid rambling and you’ll sound credible even under pressure.
How to practice (10 minutes a day)
- Pick one issue (exchanges, schedule, communication, school, etc.).
- Write your request in one sentence (something a judge can order).
- List 2–3 dated facts that support the request.
- Attach/identify proof (order, calendar, record, a few messages).
- Run practice questions until you can answer calmly in under 60 seconds.
What to avoid in simulated answers
- Speculation (“I think they did it because…”) unless you can prove it.
- Character attacks (“They’re a narcissist / lazy / evil.”)
- Dumping history that isn’t connected to today’s decision.
- Talking past the judge’s question to make a different point.
You can feel everything you feel — but in court you translate those feelings into facts and child impact.
A short practice routine before a hearing
The night before (or morning of), run 5 questions and force yourself to keep each answer under 60 seconds:
- What order are you asking for today?
- Why is that order best for the child?
- What are the 2–3 facts with dates?
- What is your best supporting exhibit/record?
- What is the smallest enforceable change the court can make?
Want the full structure?
Start with the flagship guide — it shows the full workflow: timeline, deadlines, evidence, and hearing prep.
Educational only — not legal advice.
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